Self Love: A Guide To Building Confidence For Teenage Girls

Aladeloba Babatunde
3 min readOct 28, 2023


It’s no secret that over 60% of teenage girls grapple with self-esteem issues. These feelings often revolve around their appearance, dress, and their ability to communicate with their peers.

In this blog, we’ll delve into the challenges teenage girls face, offering practical insights on how self-love can help them build the confidence they deserve.

Challenges Faced by Teenage Girls

Teenage girls frequently struggle with self-esteem, resulting in them becoming introverted, shy, or avoiding social interactions, especially with peers they perceive as more ‘accepted.’ This stems from feeling unworthy, largely because they define themselves based on others’ judgments and societal standards.

Consider the experiences of two girls, Isioma and Hadiza. Isioma constantly wore layers beneath her clothes because of body-shaming, and Hadiza felt excluded from social gatherings due to her skin color. These stories illustrate how peer pressure can negatively impact a teenager’s self-esteem.

The Importance of Self-Love

Self-love is about embracing oneself, including one’s background, family, and unique traits.

It involves refraining from harsh self-criticism based on factors like skin color, height, or body shape. Furthermore, it entails being content with who you are and disregarding negative opinions from others.

Practicing self-love means being your own biggest supporter, cheering yourself on, and feeling proud of your unique qualities.

It involves feeling confident in your own skin and dismissing comparisons with others. In essence, self-love means setting your own standards for self-worth.

One significant way to boost confidence for teenage girls, once they’ve embraced self-love, is what I like to call “Mirror Self-Talk.” This practice involves looking into a mirror or visualizing yourself in front of one and speaking positive affirmations.

Consciously remind yourself that you are beautiful, full of greatness, and an amazing creation of God. Your worth is not determined by your friends, classmates, or anyone else. Instead, you are defined by the affirmations and perceptions you hold about yourself.

Rather than criticizing yourself based on what others might say, replace those negative thoughts with positive affirmations.

Speak kindly to yourself, saying things like:

“I am the best,” “I have an amazing body,” “This outfit looks great on me,” “I possess a brilliant mind,” and “The world is fortunate to have me.”

This practice not only enhances your self-esteem but also leaves you feeling enthusiastic and self-assured after gazing into the mirror.

Achieving daily goals will boost your self-esteem.

Setting daily goals and successfully achieving them is a powerful way to boost your self-esteem and confidence.

These goals should be tailored to enhance your personal growth and well-being, whether they pertain to academics, hobbies, or self-improvement.

For example, you might decide to read a chapter of a book each day to expand your knowledge on a particular subject. Alternatively, you could allocate an hour daily to create informative and engaging TikTok videos or dedicate time to hone your photography skills. Even simple daily exercises like skipping, dancing, or singing can be incredibly rewarding.

The key is to ensure that your goals are realistic and attainable and that you are fully committed to accomplishing them within the timeframe you’ve established.

When you achieve a goal, a sense of accomplishment is released, which in turn enhances your self-esteem and self-love.

Positive relationships are crucial for your well-being.

While it’s impossible to completely avoid individuals who may criticize you or make you feel inadequate for things beyond your control, you have the power to distance yourself from such negative influences. Instead, focus on connecting with those who genuinely uplift you.

Surround yourself with people who embrace your uniqueness and celebrate your qualities.

These individuals will admire your melanin-rich skin, see the beauty in your uniqueness, and may even encourage you to pursue a modeling career due to your slender physique.

In essence, prioritize being in the company of those who wholeheartedly appreciate and accept you for who you are. These are the people who will celebrate your strengths and support you without reservations.